I do what I do as a representation of freedom from the many silencers that have been placed on us as women, SPECIFICALLY women of color in our interactions with men and majority group members. Every time we are aggressed toward, we take on the burden of silence in order to protect our abusers from exposure. Heinously, other women of color will attempt to silence us by making us feel like traitors to our culture for outing men of color AND white people. Fuck that. If you abuse me in any way, I will drop your first and last name and picture all over all of my social media platforms AND radio. I also will tell local newspapers. I encourage all other women of color to
do the same. It is your silence
that makes you a victim. Give a name and a face to your abusers. These
are not hypothetical situations and should not be treated as such. YOU
DID NOT DO ANYTHING TO DESERVE BEING ABUSED!!!! Furthermore, IT IS NOT
YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO PROTECT YOUR ABUSERS!!! And just because nobody
took a crowbar to your jaw does not mean that you weren't abused. Here
is a list of common abuses toward women of color that are swept under
the rug simply because it wasn't legally considered battery, sodomy, or
1. Coercion into undressing or being touched against her will.
2. Touching her hair without her permission.
3. Touching any part of her without her permission outside of the "safe
zones" that include shoulders, hands, and upper arms (basically, if you
wouldn't touch your white male boss that way, you don't have the right
to touch anyone that way without their permission. Yes white women, this
includes you and your fascination with black hair).
4. Grabbing her
in a public place to dance or anything else (again, if you wouldn't
grab your white male boss in a situation, you don't have the right to
grab anyone that way without their permission).
5. Yelling on the
street or in a public place at her and when ignored, expressing
discontent. Sometimes, obscenities are yelled, but even if it is not
obscene, it is still psychological abuse (again, if you wouldn't do it
to your white male boss, don't do it to anyone).
6. Ignoring her
feelings or points of view when such a dismissal would be detrimental to
her well being or social/professional self actualization. (#white male
boss...starting to get the idea?)
7. Unsolicited compliments of her
body parts. And it doesn't matter what she's wearing (would you do it to your white male boss? Yes the white male
boss element is a reoccurring theme).
8. No means no.
Staring at her for a prolonged period of time. Yes, this is an
aggressive move. How would you like it if a man stared at you for an
extended period of time and licked his lips? WHAT Blue? Are you
suggesting that people exercise discipline over their animalistic
instinctual tendencies when interacting with people they don't know?
YES!!! YES!!! THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I'M SAYING!!!
10. Coercion (verbally or physically) into going from one place to another place against her will.
The list can literally go on forever, but it comes down to this:
TREAT WOMEN OF COLOR THE SAME WAY YOU WOULD TREAT YOUR WHITE MALE BOSS
UNLESS YOU HAVE EXPRESS WRITTEN CONSENT TO DO OTHERWISE. Did I just say
express written consent? Yes. Yes I did. You can't go wrong with express
written consent. No, this is non-negotiable unless you are dealing with
hos. Cuz hos just wanna fuck. So if you just wanna fuck, stop
complaining about hos because you chose the hos. The beautiful,
intelligent, incredible, artistic, dynamic, and exceptional women of
color are not ever going to be interested in you if you do anything
listed above when you meet them. Guaranteed.
Note: All but #9 are technically grounds for arrest and can lead to
criminal charges. All a woman would have to do is have a better lawyer
than yours and you can be looking at 5-15 years for everything on this
list, even if you're married.
When in doubt, pretend I'm a rich white guy when you meet me. It'll all be clear after that.